Many mothers find themselves struggling with self-doubt, feeling like they are never quite enough. From childhood, societal expectations can shape how we see ourselves, leading to fears of judgment and a lack of confidence. These feelings often follow women into motherhood, where the pressure to be the ‘perfect’ mother can be overwhelming.

For many, motherhood is seen as a calling, a role that should come naturally. Yet, when challenges arise, it’s easy to feel like a failure. The pressure to be constantly available, to meet every need and to sacrifice personal ones for the sake of the family can lead to exhaustion and loss of identity. Many mothers begin to equate their worth with how much they give to others, prioritizing everyone else’s needs while neglecting their own.

However, self-worth is not tied to perfection. It is essential for mothers to recognize that making mistakes does not define them. Learning, growing and giving oneself permission to be imperfect is a crucial step in reclaiming confidence and identity. Accepting oneself fully and modeling self-compassion for children is far more impactful than striving for an unattainable ideal of perfection.

The truth is, valuing oneself is not an act of arrogance, it is an act of self-compassion. Prioritizing personal well-being does not mean neglecting responsibilities; rather, it enables mothers to show up more fully for their families. When a mother believes in her own worth, she sets a powerful example for her children.

If you’re struggling with feelings of self-doubt, of not being enough, or of losing yourself in the expectations placed upon you, know this: You deserve to be kind to yourself. Be gentle. You are worthy just as you are.

And when you start believing that? Everything changes.